#3 If that's what he's hanging onto at the moment, fine.
Soldier having another crisis... depressed, having suicidal thoughts, panic attacks are almost constant... his girlfriend bolted to add to his misery... he agreed to take his shotgun to a neighbor's apartment...
he's staying at his Sgt's tonight last I heard.. Soldier had spoken with the girlfriend and they have agreed to take a step back and see where they go from here. Soldier SAYS he's ok with whatever happens in their relationship... that they need more time to be best friends before they move on again in the relationship... that all he wants is girlfriend to be happy and if that means they're not together, he can live with that... but I hear the words, just not sure he truly believes that -- but if that's what he's hanging onto at the moment, fine.
He was going to Sgt's to do a lot more talking and Sgt was going to assess what care Soldier needed (why a 30-something Sgt gets to make that call is beyond me) and if he thought Soldier needed to get to medical today, he'd arrange that, otherwise he'll make sure Soldier gets in to see the doc tomorrow. Soldier will stay with Sgt at least tonight... not sure what happens tomorrow. Sgt is also going to go to bat for Soldier to TRY to get him a housing allowance (since one of Soldier's greatest pressures is financial) but no promises... he's not eligible until he's an E-5 and he's an E-4... but they are pulling his "promotion package" because Soldier has enough pressure on him without trying to go before the promotion board (which of course w/ get him his E-5... but mentally, he can't handle any more on his plate).
He also may get a 4 day pass to come here for a little R&R and family time. my guess is that Soldier needs to sleep, eat and talk... and maybe just sleep & eat & play... I'll be sure he plays (take him horse riding, hiking in the hills, maybe fishing on the lake, He sounded like he wanted the time here... or maybe just the time away...
if I don't think he's getting the right care, Dad and I say it will be time to start rattling some cages... I've had enough of these phone calls to last me a lifetime...
posted by Soldier's Mom at 00:59
1 Comments:
I hesitate to comment on the other posts because what you have written is so powerful and so outside the realm of my expertise.
In regards to housing allowances, if he lives on post, he does not get one, if he lives off post, he does. Rank determines the size of the allowance, and sometimes whether or not he can live off post, but it does not determine whether or not he gets an allowance. Now that he is living with you, he should be drawing BAH.
I am sorry to hear about what Soldier and you are going through. You are very strong and very generous to write this all down. Someday someone will draw strength, hope, and guidance from this blog.
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